But I can’t help but notice my friends tally on Facebook has been slowly trending downward lately, which means people are either closing their accounts or unfriending me. And I naturally wonder: Who were they? And why did they do it? Did I do something?
In fact, I don’t think it’s a matter of security: It’s a totally natural thing for a social creature who is introspective to ask. I find it important to think about how my actions affect others. I find it important to consider if my actions are getting the results I want.
I won’t necessarily change. It’s decently likely that I did nothing particular at all. If I offended someone, did I do so because I was careless in my speech or because they disagreed with my ideas? If it’s the latter, I won’t worry about it. As long as I’m living by my values and principles– which include being respectful of others and being willing to speak up for what I believe in– I won’t worry about it.
But that self-examination is always necessary to make sure that’s the case. Until recently I’d been ill and not thinking about it so much.